Someone

There’s a selfless rhythm required when enmeshing yourself with another person.

(Justin Vernon)

34 years being enmeshed with someone is weirdly like being enmeshed with yourself, if you play your cards right. You can pretty much do what you want as long as you’re not hurting yourself, mentally or physically.

The one enmeshed can also benefit from such a long relationship. They know that you know them pretty well and they figure you’d not do anything that would ruin a good enmeshment.

Yes, that’s a weird way of describing what it’s like being married for 34 years. But I think you could say that marriage is an enmeshing of two souls that, ideally, remain so after however many years till death do you part.

I like to think that my inner rhythm has been atuned to the one enmeshed for these past 34 years. I must admit that it gets a little out of tune sometimes. That’s when the going gets tough but the tough get going.

On April 6th, I’ll celebrate the 34th year of what has been a very fulfilling enmeshment. I think she would agree.